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dalbertdraws:

here is a personal series of images of people and flowers. i’ve been procrastinating finishing them for awhile.

enjoy them! if you like. mhm

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How to help someone with paranoia, delusions and/or hallucinations

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bpdrotten:

The most important aspect here is to ask the person you want to help. Everyone wants different forms of support. Some people want to be challenged, some want to be believed. How people want to be help vary between each person, so the best thing to do is ask the person if you can!

Paranoia

  • If they are okay with it, ask the person how realistic the paranoia is. If they heard a noise that triggered it for example ask them of possible causes for it (a pet for example)
  • Do things to make them feel safe. Give them a blanket, tell them that you’re thinking/praying for them.
  • Don’t dismiss their fears. Don’t say “But no-one is going to break in!” This doesn’t help, and may make it so the person won’t express their fears to you in the future for fear you’ll judge them
  • Don’t judge them. To them, they are scared. As silly as it may seem to you, to them it is real.
  • Tell them if there’s anything at all you can do, to just say. Tell them you’re not judging them, you understand they’re scared, they’re not being silly, and that you want to help them.
  • Give suggestions to how to counter what they’re scared of. If they worry something is in the dark, tell them they could turn a light on. (note: avoid doing this often if possible, it may form maladaptive behaviours that could damage the person in the long run)

Delusions

  • Avoid arguing with the person about their delusions. Delusions are extremely fixed and difficult to change. The person believes they are real- by telling them they are not you make it so that person feels they can’t trust you
  • Don’t be offended or hurt if a person forms a delusion about you. It may hurt a bit if your friend has a delusion that you want to hurt them, but remember that delusions don’t make acceptions. In their mind, no matter how good a friend you are, their delusion is convincing. Just give them space if they ask, ask if there’s anything you can do to convince them otherwise, and respect their emotions.
  • With permission from the person, try and dispute their delusion. If they fear for example that their food is poisoned, ask them why they think that. Ask if they have any evidence.
  • Make them feel safe. Continuing the food poisoning delusion, perhaps make them some new food to calm them down, or get them to make their own.
  • Remind them that you are not there to judge them or tell them they’re wrong.
  • Connect with the emotion of the delusion and validate them. E.g. “It must be scary thinking your friend is trying to hurt you.”
  • Calm things down around the person. Often delusions are worsened by sensory overload, get the person to a calm, open, relaxing place. 
  • Show them with your body language that you are on the same side. Sit beside rather than in front of the person so they don’t see you as a threat.
  • Stay calm yourself- don’t panic or get caught up in emotion- someone providing stability and rationality can really help.
  • If you get frustrated, don’t express this at the time. It can be frustrating for a person to be fixed on a delusion and not being able to sway them- but remember, the delusion has a MUCH larger impact on them than it does on you. Remember to consider their side and their feelings.

Hallucinations

  • As with all of the above, remember that to the person that the hallucination is real. No matter how much you say it isn’t, they are still experiencing it. 
  • Isolate them from the hallucination if you can. For example, if they hallucinate a person in their room, ask them to leave the room and lock the door for a short period, giving the hallucination possibly time to fade and to calm the person. (Note: the aim isn’t necessarily to get rid of the hallucination, but to calm the person and make them feel safe)
  • Ask them what they can do to counter the hallucination. For example, if they have auditory hallucinations they could put on headphones to attempt to counter them.
  • Accept that sometimes the hallucination can’t be gotten rid of. Sometimes it’s a case of keeping the person safe and waiting until it fades. This may be a case of the person going to sleep.
  • Keep the person safe in the mean time. If they see bugs for example, tell them you have some spray to get rid of them, then perhaps spray some deodorant onto them. This seems silly, but has the chance of working.
  • Keep the person calm if you can. If they hear voices for example, tell them the voices are only voices and can’t hurt them. Inform them you will get rid of any danger and will protect them.
  • If they have sensory hallucinations, stimulate other senses. If they feel breath on their neck, try rubbing their neck to ‘cover’ the feeling.

Finally, a good post on paranoia and hallucinations.. thank you!

killyouranxiety Source: bpdrotten long post ref mental health
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How to Cope with Guilt Feelings

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Try and work out why you feel so guilty. Make a list of all the things you feel guilty about. Try and work out which item sparks the strongest reaction. That’s probably the item to focus on.

2. Rate it on a scale of 1-10. That will help you to assess how bad it really was – as sometimes we feel guilty about stupid, minor things.

3. Think through what you can do. Think of actions you can take to try and make things a bit better – even if deep down you know that you can never make things right. It will bring some relief, and will strengthen your resolve to do things differently another time.

4. If your guilt is “false guilt” (so you just generally feel guilty), consider working with a counsellor. You may have developed a shame based personality - so you basically feel worthless and inadequate.

5. Forgive yourself. You can’t turn back the clock. What’s done is done. But you can start again and try to be a different person. Let it go, don’t think about it. The future is what counts.

onlinecounsellingcollege long post mental health
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Partner has gone nonverbal, what do I do? (info)

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So I am one of the unfortunate souls who goes nonverbal whenever I get severely stressed out and/or self-loathing (because I think I screwed something up between me and my partner)

SO,

To help others out  who have possibly had this issue (or have a partner who have this issue), here’s some tips that might help you!

  1. BE PATIENT! Give them time to formulate words. Give them time to ground themselves. Don’t get mad at them if it’s only a 1-5 word response, and/or they stutter. They are TRYING to speak to you, but their anxiety is preventing them.
  2. Ask questions that will be simple “yes” or “no” answers. This requires precision with your words (for example: “ Do you want me to hug you? Do you want me to put a blanket around you?”).
  3. Offer them a notepad with writing utensil. If they can’t speak for whatever reason, they might be able to write down what is on their mind. There are some applications out there that helps individuals who are nonverbal
  4. Give them something cold to hold that has texture (such as an orange).This can help ground the individual and bring them back to reality.
  5. After the incident, offer to talk about it in a safe, comfortable setting. Your partner might be able to better talk about the specific incident after the incident has taken place. They will have had time to process what had happened. 
  6.  Take them out of the stressful environment. If there is something (or someone) in the room stressing them out, offer to remove it. Be specific with your questions. This might help them be able to form words again.

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sophelstien

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I remember in my medieval philosophy class my professor once mentioned that silent reading wasn’t always the norm and that rather people would read outlouad typically. One of the most well known examples of this is in Augustine’s Confessions where he remarks that he was astonished at how Ambrose of Milan would read books silently and without moving his lips or mouth at all. It wasn’t that people didnt have the ability to read silently like people would be aware if a situation called for them to read the contents quietly such as a politician or general recieving a letter with sensitive information. The point rather is that in those cases the person would intentionally will themselves to read quietly and if you were going to sit down and read a book or scroll the default was that you would read it out loud so someone that read silently as their norm would be seen as ‘odd’. And by ‘odd’ I dont mean that people thought they were a freak or stupid just that it was a strange quirk. 

As a matter of fact reading silently might’ve been seen as a sign that someone was an incredibly heavy reader such as with Ambrose. The reason being that one of the reasons vocalized reading was the norm had to do with how people wrote texts like it was pretty common for there to be irregularities with the script or especially that it was highly common for writings tonothavespacesinbetweenwordssoreadingoutloudfeltlikeamorenaturalasawaytomakeouttheindividualwords. An incredibly ‘veteran’ reader like Ambrose (Augustine also mentions Ambrose could read quickly) might develop mental shortcuts letting them more easily pick part the individual words that had been squished together and in doing so simply gradually drop the habit of reading out loud because it wasnt an aid to them any longer. In Latin Europe this changed when Irish monks in the late 7th century developed the practice of writing with more uniform letters as well as separating different words by leaving blank spaces between them. This slowly spread to the rest of Latin Europe (at least with the monastaries) until it finally became the norm in the 12th century, just in time for the explosive importation of scientific and philosophical literature from the Arabic world which was nice.

Anyway back to before that happened, something my professor said that was pretty interesting was that that if you stepped into a medieval library before this change ocurred is that youd be struct by how much talking was seeming to go on the monks read to themselves. That combined with the fact that the expensive nature of books often meant might could be attached to chains meant that a medieval library would be have a continuous din of murmuring and rattling metal which is interesting imagery for a library.

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